Progress….it’s coming!

As you know, I have been on a mission the last few years to get fitter and that journey has been fruitful.

There are many who doubt I could do this but they journey isn’t stopping. It’s progressing and it’s getting better everyone!

From going for runs to weight workouts I’ve got to keep pushing myself more more!

Achievement never came easy!

Fitness….yeah, I can do this!

In the past few years I have become somewhat of a fanatic about fitness. It’s something many of us strive for but it’s easier said than done right?

Busy lifestyles leave us little time, bust work lives and well, just the year of 2020 need I say more!

Still, I have continued to challenge myself with at least one gym session….and often two and I feel the progress is starting to show!

It’s hard work and now as I continue my challenge I want to try to build the muscle meaning a stricter diet and a whole lot of support.

After all, without support can you really do it? It’s going to be tough but with the support of my husband this is something I want to do and want to win and I’m going to keep you updated on my like page and YouTube page!

At the end of the day, we all have different goals we like to hit in life. This is mine, to beat body dysmorphia!

Paranormal dilemma’s

It has been six months since we were able to do a ghost tour with the public and whilst I miss it grately, I have been one of the people being vocal about the importance of keeping everyone safe.

Covid-19 hasnt gone away and whilst it was sad to suspend events it has been the absolute correct decision. After all, nothing is more important than the health and well being of everyone.

In view of that, we have always said events wont come back until its safe to do so. We are trialing two limited number tours in September but it wont get back to normal anytime soon. We will always do what is right for you and in line with the Government and we hope that these correct actions will enhance our reputation. Money should never come above health.

However, sadly this is not the case with like minded companies and groups in the paranormal who believe that these rules do not apply to them. Over the past few weeks I have seen several companies running ghost hunts with no Covid-19 policies stated, no attempts at social distancing and at venues which just arent suitable.

Some have operated ghost hunts with over 30 people (which is against the law currently) and allowed guests to do close contact experiments such as glass divination, seances and use equipment and then of course changing areas with no cleaning taking place.

In one example, I was told that guests at one ghost hunt at a museum were told they didnt have to wear masks as all the guests ‘agreed’ it was OK not to. Again, this is illegal, the Government guidelines clearly state unless you have a medical reason why, you must wear masks in places such as museums. So why would this differ on a ghost hunt? The answer is, it doesnt!

In addition, operating ghost hunts in venues with small spaces and in low level or no lighting where you cant see where guests are makes in impossible to ensure social distancing. Telling customers they can mix and do glass divination and such as experiments ‘at arms length’ is not social distancing and very worrying.

The inability to clean each area down before each group goes there again is risky. To make matters worse, they arent taking booking in advance which is also clearly wrong!

To add to that, some are now advertising ‘zombie’ scare events which not only encourage close contact, but also encourage people to raise their voice and scream. This is another thing the NHS are telling people to avoid. The next question is who does the make up? how do you stop people touching? the questions just continue.

I have worked in the paranormal and sadly, it continues to be an industry with people in it more worried about fame and money than anything or anyone else. This just isnt us, we care, we work hard and we do the right thing.

In those many years I have seen maney companies come and go, many people attempt to cause trouble or do sad things such as backstab. It really is a vicious industry to be in, something I really hope will change. But the reality is that it doesnt seem to be the case.

I pride myself on being professional, working with everyone and getting on with everyone because that the person I am and sadly, many have taken advantage of that and blasted out some negative comments about our company or us personally which have always been false but I know those who know us know that 🙂

New direction?

For more than 15 years I have focused on the paranormal, theatrical ghost tours and the journey has been absolutely amazing.

We have won awards, I have designed ghost tours and events, launches them and sold them out. I have worked in radio, written and appeared in articles and been on TV.

I have lived in a haunted manor, helped write a book and so much more. Supernatural Tours and Events has been my pride a joy and whilst I want it to grow, develop and i want to continue on the journey, one thing has always been a barrier.

That barrier is that I haven’t developed me. With qualification and experience in Learning and development, dog training and wrestling there’s so much more I want to achieve.

I’m giving 1 million percent to wrestling and my L&D career and fitness is one thing I have been really developing.

I’ve looked at personal training courses which really excites me. Maybe it’s a new journey?

Bully is never OK

It’s been a week of speaking out in the wrestling world and whilst I’ve never experienced it there, I have decided to speak out with my experiences of bullying.

Firstly, bullying of any kind is always unacceptable no matter the form. It can effect people for many years.

Throughout my childhood nin was bullied in more than one way. Yes, there were older boys who did it for many years where I lived. The constant names, threats and including hitting and even stealing bikes was a hard thing to deal with when you are a kid.

So bad, it was a choice of simply staying indoors, although that didn’t stop. It continued by shouting outside the house.

It went on for many years with ridiculous names and behaviour that was just awful. It wasn’t an easy thing to go through and it was hard for my parents too who saw all of it with no reason behind these people’s actions.

But it wasn’t just youngsters, it was also from a teacher I had in year 6 at Bitterne school. She felt that I was worthless and made life hell by making me sit at a desk with back to the class looking out the window all day. In fact three of us recieved that treatment.

I was put on lower level work with no support and unable to interact with classmates and made to clean the board every day.

To be blunt she purposely ignored me and the two others. She then told my parents at parents evening that I wasn’t worth it because I would never get anywhere.

Hardly encouraging from a teacher who was also deputy head but the result was that is how she made me feel.

When I went to senior school my maths teacher couldn’t believe I didn’t know simple maths because of my time in year 6.

What you have to remember is that this behaviour ruins lives and can be an effect that never goes away and it’s completely utterly unacceptable.

Bullying whether it’s name calling, treating someone different, putting comments on social media is just unacceptable.

To a degree I hope that those who bullied me read this and learn just what they did which was a lack of confidence for so many years.

But in the end I didn’t let it get me down. I always have done and always will treat everyone the right way and would never do anything to make anyone feel bad or treated differently.

Those who really know me know that i support everyone as much as possible. I know there are some who have tried making out differently but if you meet me, know me you know I am supportive. The reason why I work in L&D is because i help people where I can.

I have cracked in been Radio Presenter, run my own events company, worked a learning and development manager and also a wrestler. It’s all taking time but it’s worked out 🙂

So remember, don’t bully, just be nice!

Y

Changing it up!

Lockdown has been a huge test for all of us and it’s til not over! My challenge was to keep active and workout.

I have continued to workout, even in the heat of the sun and tried to maintain a healthy diet.

Now, I want to push myself further and do thinks like never before. Tougher weights, tougher challenges and so much more.

This month I challenge James (Raphael) to a wrestling match. It was our first match together and proud to say that I won.

Getting in the ring was a major mission for me and I have enjoyed it. There’s so much more to to but I am looking forward to it.

Progress and persist

I like to think that sometimes I write blogs that can inspire, provoke thoughts and engage with the audience and so I use this space to share my thoughts. Whilst im sure they arent always right, this blog is the place to share what I think.

Over the past few months I have shared several blogs about ambitions, goals, fitness and some similar posts. This is because this is a way to really reflect on what you want to achieve.

I’ve been in to fitness for many years and over the past six weeks in lock down with limited things to do, I have upped my game doing about three hours of exercise a day. Whilst many my think that’s a lot (and it is) it has allowed me to stay focused, motivated and prevented boredom.

Long may this continue with a good healthy diet to mix. Although, at least once a week you should have a naughty day!

But outside of that what else do you want. A successful wrestling career, alright i’m in my mid 30’s but so what! Plenty of time to make the most and kick butt!

Keep challenging yourself!

Goals..why I need them

The simple fact in life is that everyone is different and what motivates you can be different to someone else.

I have always been a goal driven on the go person who likes to achieve things. One of biggest goals is to keep fit. I did well with that and now I’m focusing on building muscle.

Many may think that I’m just another fitness fanatic and maybe it appears that but dig deeper and it means so much more.

Those very close to me will probably know that although it may not show I have struggled with body dysmorphia for many years and still do.

If you have never had it it’s very hard to understand. It effects you every day and leads to obsession over eating healthy and even what you wear.

I know I’m not over weight but for what ever reason I can’t accept that. You get obsessed over exercising and lack confidence in how you look.

There are so many factors that probably caused this for me but the one thing anyone needs to understand is to give support.

I wrote this post because men don’t often admit they have this but it affects more people than you would imagine.

Is this a sympathy post about depression, dysmorphia, no it’s simply about raising awareness, expressing my feelings and helping others understand.

To get around this I’m going to develop an strict diet and work out routine. I don’t really eat unhealthy now but I need to push myself more and do the right thing to help me overcome these barriers.

That’s with everyone’s support and understanding this is what I need to do and doesn’t reflect anyone else.

But to also realise we are living in turbulent times and my thoughts are for those who have been effected by the Corona virus.

Staying motivated and achieving goals

Many of us are facing hard times right now and whilst its essential that everyone stays safe and important that everyone does what is needed to help. Likewise, it is important to take a bit of time and reflect.

Like around 9 million people in the UK, I am on furlough and with no work, tours or wrestling what am I doing to stay motivated? Staying motivated can help with you mental health.

I have always been pretty goal orientated so staying at home is pretty hard going. But it gives you the chance to really think about you own goals that you want to achieve. Firstly, no matter what happens, you should ensure you do what ever it takes to achieve that you want to do. Nothing is unachievable if you put your mind to it, no matter your age, no matter what obstacles get in your way.

So what are the goals. Firstly, getting back in the wrestling ring, developing my skills and the chance to perform publicly in solo action and as part of a tag team. It will happen, it all takes time and focus.

That leads nicely to Supernatural Tours and Events. Success, a great company and opportunities to maybe do things we have never done before. Ghost hunts in other countries which may take time but focus is the key.

I have also been working on podcasts and a new Supernatural News which has returned better than before and could lead to some great things.

Whilst at home I am continuing to stay motivated by doing two gym workouts a day with equipment we have in the home and going out for runs. Staying in a routine keeps things as real as possible.

Supernatural Lockdown!

Difficult times are upon us and the next few months are going to be a challenging time for everyone. It is so important that we all do the right thing, stay at home, keep everyone safe and stick to the guidelines set by the NHS and Government.

Last Friday we broadcasted a Supernatural Live! episode from a secret place but we still took precautions and this was before Mondays announcement. We had already postponed all of our events and that looks to be the same for April.

So what will happen with ghost hunts and the paranormal? The guidance is simple, you must stay in unless going for one exercise session a day, caring for a vulnerable person or getting essentials.

Only go to work if it is an essential last resort or a key worker. As much as I love the paranormal and ive done this for many years ghost hunts do not fall into this bracket. So why are they still going ahead?

Frankly, most companies and groups have done the right thing and that is postponed or cancelled them. Boris’s words were simple ‘dont meet friends even if they ask and unless family only go out with two people’ Simply, stay at home!

Its not too much to ask, one thing to ensure we all stay safe and protect each other. But looking on the internet today there are still groups running them! Our work is not essential! we are not key workers.

Its not just putting the public at risk, it’s breaking rules, spreading an awful virus and setting a bad example. Fine, if your home is haunted, do it from there on your own or with people you live with but not in venues or out in public!

Protect the public, help the NHS and dont put profit first! It isnt a game, its peoples lives! So I urge anyone who is planning to do this to stop now!

When this is all over, we can work together and build a community that needs to exist in the paranormal with the right people who are passionate for now, you are being asked to do one thing and thats stay at home!

The NHS and care workers around the world are doing an amazing job! Help them beat this!